2014: Goals

On our last night of vacation {more on that, later}, as we were falling asleep, I asked Jason if he had any goals for the upcoming year. In total Jason fashion, he of course doesn't make goals, other than, "surviving another year of law school", I was told. He makes a valid point.

But for me, I need goals. Or resolutions....tasks. Call it what you like. I need them.

Tomorrow, I turn thirty. In some ways, as I get older I know more of what I want out of life, and how to obtain it. Of course, in other ways I get overwhelmed and wonder what the heck I am doing...but that is how it goes, and at least I can say I have a heck of a lot more confidence as I enter my thirties than I did in my twenties. Afreakingmen, ya'll.

2013

Sometimes, I lose sight of this blog and why I started it. I originally started it as a newlywed to document my new life as a wife. Through it, I have met and made many new friends, learned how to network, evolved as a person...I could go on and on.

But sometimes, life passes too quickly and I forget how much we have done in a year, and then I am once again so grateful to have this little ol' blog to look back and reflect on as 2013 comes to an end.

I tend to get whiny, when things get too busy, but I do know how lucky I am. I am so fortunate to have a family I am close to, a husband who I love the ish out of, a few very close wonderful friends I can count on, and even more friends that I get to have fun with!

In 2013, Jason and I took our first plane ride together flying to Las Vegas to celebrate my twenty-ninth! We took a trip South to see our friends get hitched, while seeing old friends who live out of town.We also flew to NYC to see our friends get married in August; last week we drove to St. Augustine for a little us time to regroup between semesters/my birthday. And I went on a cruise for Jennifer's Bachelorette Trip. We traveled well in 2013, for sure.

Goals {September}

Yes, there are less days in this year than not, and I am just now finally getting around to posting a few goals; hard, concrete, write em' down to obtain them, goals.

...better late than never, yes?

First of all, thank YOU all so very much for your kind words, support, and encouragement after I shared the dreaded number on the scale. I know it has only been three days, but saying {er, writing?} it for all to see, somehow has lifted a weight. I mean clearly those who know me in the figurative flesh can tell this kid isn't thin, but I don't think most would have guessed that number. Until about twenty pounds ago, I think I was able to hide the number and carry it well.

I do really well with my eating when I want to, and working out. I have a hard time managing both at the same time, however.

Someone I work with suggested setting small, obtainable goals. He is so right. I told Jason this and he agreed and said that he has noticed I push myself too hard, at first and then give up. Again, so very true. I give up, easily.

In being my absolute heaviest, I mentioned I am miserable. In most aspects of my life. By nature I love to be around people, and I like to be a part of things! But with Jason in school, I have become more of a homebody. If you know me in real life, you probably disagree with me, but it is true. I don't do as much as I did, and when I do, I am often resentful...care to take a guess as to who gets the brunt of my grouchiness when they aren't working full time, and going to law school in the evening. B-I-N-G-O.

So with all of that being said, here are my goals for this month. I plan to do something I rarely, ever do: take it a day at a time.

• Set obtainable goals: I am planning to get in 30-45 minutes each day of physical activity. Not just walking, but heart pounding cardio and/or weights. But at my own pace. 
• Eat within my calories: I can kill it when I eat when I want to. But one bad meal, or cocktail, or Miller Lite and my week of meal planning goes pretty much out the window. If I want to have a drink, I am allowing myself with friends once/week, two drink minimum. And in reading Jillian Michaels, Slim For Life, if I have a bad meal, follow it up with five clean meals. So hopefully I won't feel guilt, and can enjoy something indulgent from time to time without gaining back 5lbs. Just have to stay within the calories.
• Say yes more: Like I mentioned, I have been more of a homebody lately. I still have a fun social life, but on my own terms, as long as I am in control. I never used to be like this! So if I get an invite to something that I think will put me OUT of my comfort zone {because I am uncomfortable with the way I look} and I have the free time, I have to accept. Period.
• Be nicer to that husband: of course we have issues. He isn't perfect, and we know I am not, and yes we're a team, but I take a lot of my issues out on him. My weight loss isn't something unfortunately he can fix for me. No matter how much I want him to ;)

Do you still have goals this far into the year? What are they?

XOXO,

Nichole