Thursday, May 30, 2013

Newlyweds: The First Year

Do you all even know my love for "reality" television? In some ways, I am quite embarrassed of it, but in other ways I don't even care that much, anyways what you think.

My newest obsession? Newlyweds: The First Year on Bravo. I love it and hate it and cannot.stop.watching.



As the title suggests, the show is about newlyweds. Four couples to be exact. Four very different couples. Two of the four couples had never lived together before marriage, and one couple were engaged and married only six months in. The last couple, my favorite, a same sex couple seem the most functional of the four couples, so far anyways. I mean it is Bravo, after all, they may turn out to be crazy at some point.

But what draws me to this new show is the struggles and challenges these couples all face. When I first started blogging as "Newlywed Nichole", I shared some issues Jason and I had. We still have some of those issues. I think we always will but how we handle them is what has changed {for the most part}.

I feel like a traditional marriage isn't what it used to be. I say that and surprisingly I had a pretty traditional courtship with Jason, but I also wasn't looking for it, nor did I ever expect to get married so there ya go. It comes when you're not looking for it, I suppose?

This past weekend, while Jason and I had a lot of fun in Orlando, we also got into a pretty big argument Friday night. It was a huge misunderstanding and it had been ages since we had a fight like that. I hated it and at some point we both kind of just walked away from it. We weren't getting anywhere and our issues will not all be settled overnight.

So anyways, this show, Newlyweds. I started watching it this week {now that Jason is back in school and I have time to be a bum, but I digress} right after getting over our argument and it brought me back a bit to the newlywed days for the Crews'.

Jason and I had both been and are still quite independent people. I am definitely an emotionally needy person {I like to think I am also pretty self aware too; trust me I know how I can be} at times and mostly my husband does a good job at calming his high strung crazy ass wife. Sometimes I worry that I will lose myself in my marriage. I think even after two years that is normal when you share your life with someone. And while my husband doesn't say it, I wonder if he thinks the same for himself because at times we both can be so damn stubborn.

I hope for these new newlyweds, they can sort out their first year issues and get through it. Jason and I have, and even with our differences, the good always outweighs the bad. And there is no one else I would ever want to fight with {and make up, rawr} than the guy I met at happy hour six years ago...


9 comments:

  1. bwahaha making up. We just hit a year and it was awesome and hard at times too.. I always tell people (when they ask a million times how married life is) that we love hard and we fight hard lol.

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  2. I started watching Newlywed too. I can relate a lot to what is happening. I felt a lot of the things these newlyweds are feeling. I wonder what people would have thought if our first year was taped?!?!?!

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  3. We had an enormous fight about an old issue Friday night too. Instead of stalking off like I always do, I really tried to explain better how I felt.

    I thought hmmm, after 11 years together we've come a long way!

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  4. I need to watch that show! My 1st year of marriage wasn't bad at all & I think that's ONLY because the 1st year we moved in together {before} marriage was ROUGH like really so 3 years later when we got married nothing really changed. & that's not saying we don't have issues because we definitely do but I feel like we get through stuff with a little more maturity these days lol anyway I am rambling. Point is I need to find this show!

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    1. It's a really good show, a little staged, like most but I could relate to SO much, from our newlywed days.

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  5. The nice thing about us getting married on our 5 year anniversary was that we had already lived together 4 & 3/4 years and worked out our kinks. We were able to just enjoy our first year married. Marriage is hard, but it gets better along the way as you learn more about each other. It is always something you have to work at...but definitely worth it. :)

    ps-who doesn't secretly love reality tv? It is so awful you can't look away!

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    1. I love your P.S. :) And I agree, it does get so much better with time.

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  6. So true. Being a newlywed is HARD! It's hard to share life with another person.

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  7. Might have to check this out and love that pic of you two :-)

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